Sex. Many people consider this the most important part of the relationship. But, are you ready for it? Sex is nothing to take lightly. Honestly, it adds a lot to think and talk about in a relationship.
When I first became sexually active, I was very irresponsible. I didn’t know about sexually transmitted infections, the mental anguish, how to talk to my partner about it, or anything else it did to me. When you decide to have sex, make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into by talking to your partner about what you both want and are comfortable with, and how you can be safe. Know that it’s YOUR body. Never compromise your comfort for someone else’s pleasure.
I never really knew I was ready. I just wanted the person I was with to stay. I can assure you that’s not how it works and that’s not a good reason to have sex with someone. It created an insecurity in me. I questioned if I was worth it, was I pretty, and a long list of other things. When you open up that part of yourself, you can never get it back, so make sure you and your partner are ready.
When you are ready, talk to your partner. Make them understand your boundaries. If you feel comfortable and you’ve taken the steps to be safe (condoms, getting tested, birth control, etc.), you should be set to go physically. But always remember, NEVER compromise your own emotional well-being for anyone.
Be safe out there.