“I don’t trust the guy to know – or care to know – how to put on a condom properly. I tell him that if he doesn’t have the patience to let me put it on for him, then I don’t have time for him at all. In my opinion, his lack of patience determines his lack of consideration for my well being & peace of mind.
How can I make my point to him without making him feel inadequate?”
Part of being in a healthy relationship is being able to communicate. Try talking to him at a time when you are not engaged in sex. Tell him how you feel and discuss the proper way to put on a condom.
Later, when you do have sex, watch him and if you feel that he does know the correct way to put on a condom, both of you will feel more confident.