You’ve probably heard someone say: “if you don’t know, just Google it”. And while this is a great way to learn a little-known fact, or to jog your memory, Googling answers about sex (especially if it’s after the fact) is not the best idea.
We get it though. In Mississippi, it can be embarrassing to ask these questions beforehand (especially when the cultural norms here make sex seem like a taboo or inappropriate subject).
But remember: Google is not a doctor, and its search results can pull information that’s out of date, misleading, or irrelevant to your situation. If you have a question about sex, ask your doctor or use resources like Fact Not Fiction to get the facts before you make a decision that could impact your health.
With that said, here are five popular questions asked on Google about sex that we’ve answered with accurate information.
What is a safe time for no protection?
It’s always a good idea to use protection when having sex. STDs are serious and can negatively impact your health for the rest of your life. Check out our birth control guide to learn more about the different types of contraceptives, and use our clinic finder to see what BC options are available in your area.
Is wearing 2 condoms safer?
Although it may seem like a good idea, there is no scientific evidence that suggests wearing two external condoms is more effective than wearing one. In fact, there is some belief that the friction made from the two condoms rubbing together can cause them to break, making it easier to get pregnant, or catch a sexually transmitted disease like HPV.
Our advice? Just use one. After all, condoms are up to 98% effective for preventing pregnancy and greatly reduce the risk of contracting an STD. If you really want to double up, try pairing a condom with another form of birth control–like spermicide–to increase its efficiency.
When should you start talking about sex in a relationship?
If you’re thinking about having sex with your partner, talk to them before becoming sexually active. Start by thinking of the questions you want to ask them ahead of time–maybe even write them down. Then pick a time to start the conversation. Be sure to talk with them in a non-sexual situation and have your questions ready.
Using “I” statements can help break the ice and keep your questions clear and centered on your needs, but be sure to allow time for your partner to respond thoughtfully to your questions.
Talk about boundaries, birth control, and expectations around sex with your partner to get the full picture. Then, work with them to make sure you’re both prepared for when the moment strikes–whether that means deciding on birth control methods, getting tested, or creating a list of dos and don’ts. That way, you can both feel comfortable and stay safe when the time comes.
Will sex help with anxiety?
While it’s true that sex can have stress-relieving effects, these effects are temporary. And anyway, having sex purely to cure anxiety isn’t the best idea. Here’s why:
First off, sex comes with health risks. Plus, having sex to deal with anxiety can cause you to develop an unhealthy relationship with it. That’s because using sex as a coping mechanism prevents you from realizing and addressing the underlying issues that are causing anxiety and stress in your life.
Instead, develop a routine for your mental health, go to therapy, and learn more about what causes your anxiety. That way you can build mental wellness for life (and leave sex for when you really want it).
Why would periods stop?
While everyone’s period is different, menstruation typically occurs every 21 to 35 days and lasts from two to seven days on average. Menstrual cycles can be influenced by things like stress, sudden changes in weight, and hormonal birth control, all of which can make your period start later than usual.
If you’re sexually active, and your period is late, take a pregnancy test. If your test is negative, and you haven’t gotten your period in 90 days, make an appointment to see your doctor.
It’s always a good idea to start tracking your periods, so that you can monitor your cycle and make sure you’re within a healthy range. It can also make doctor’s visits easier, since you’ll always know when your last period was and how long they last on average. [Source: Mayo Clinic]
Where to Learn More
Check out these resources to learn more facts (and spend less time Googling):